Why is it so important to be bonded to your dog? It leads to a happier, healthier life together. That bond typically develops through your life with your dog, as you play, train, exercise, and live together.
From eye contact to greetings, this is how you’ll know if your dog is bonded to you. When they’re attached to you, dogs:
They readily make eye contact
Eye contact is often the first things learned in basic obedience classes because it helps dogs focus. In the world at large, eye contact can be seen as a challenge, but in loving relationships, it’s a sign of trust and love. Think about your own eye contact habits; if you’re nervous or intimidated by another person, you might have trouble looking them in the eye, but if you trust them and want to show respect, you’ll meet their gaze. It’s very similar for dogs.
Eye contact isn’t just a sign of a strong bond between a dog and her person, it’s also a way to create and improve that bond. According to Japanese researchers, dogs who gaze at their owners show elevated levels of oxytocin (aka the love hormone), and the owners experience raised oxytocin levels, as well (source). In other words, gazing at each other starts a feedback cycle of love and attachment. That’s right: you can increase your bond and your happiness levels by gazing into each other’s eyes.
Eye contact isn’t just a sign of a strong bond between a dog and her person, it’s also a way to create and improve that bond.
They check in on walks and in new environments
Dogs who are bonded to their people tend to look at them a lot. This doesn’t mean they’re glued to your side, gazing upon your face 24/7. They might still tug like crazy on the leash if they spot a pigeon, but they’ll return to you when it flies away.
Even the most adventurous, independent dogs typically show their connection by “checking in” from time to time. For example, my dog Ralph loves to go hiking, and tends to jog ahead of me on the trail, but always stops at a bend to turn back and check that I’m close behind. If your dog makes regular, visual contact with you in new environments, it means your bond is strong.
Similarly, a bonded dog is far less likely to run away. Bonded dogs tend to have a strong recall response, and will make sure their person is close by in new situations.
They freak out when you get home
Does your dog do a little dance or get a case of the zoomies when you come home? This one doesn’t take a veterinary degree to understand: they’re excited to see you! And chances are, you’re just as happy to see them. A happy, noisy, tail-waggy greeting is one of the surest signs you and your dog are connected.
Their body language is calm and relaxed in your presence
I know, I just said that if your dog is super-excited to see you, it means they’re in love! However, a bonded dog is also a comfortable dog. After the initial burst of excitement at your arrival, your dog probably settles down.
These are the most common types of relaxed body language in your dog:
A slightly open mouth, with a relaxed, lolling tongue
Rolling over for a belly rub (this shows they trust you)
Soft, relaxed facial expression
Tail wagging side to side
A “bow” to invite and encourage play
A dog with relaxed body language that lays down and takes a nap by your side is showing you how much they trust you (and how much they like being close to you, another sign of a strong bond).
They carry your shoes around in their mouth
Dogs who are attached to their owners are also very attached to their scent, and may snuggle up with their belongings—particularly extra-stinky ones like clothing and shoes. Think of it from a dog’s perspective: scent is one of their primary means of communication, and your belongings communicate home, attachment, and love.
Of course, clothes- and shoe-snuggling isn’t always a good thing. If your dog hoards your dirty laundry or destroys your favorite pair of slippers, they may be exhibiting sings of separation anxiety. Otherwise, take it as a compliment! And invest in a few dog hair cleanup tools— and long-lasting chews like naturally-shed antlers that might entice them away from the shoes.